I was once told, “When you have a spare minute, look at yourself in the mirror and then ask myself do I like who is looking back?” What is the first feeling that fills my gut, what is the first thought that pops into my head before I can censor myself? Now I ask the same question to you but instead of really putting importance on what the thoughts are, we are going to dive into the why.

The Why is where you find meaning, it is the Why the navigates, creates, and orchestrates your mind. The Why is the trigger, the What is simply the vehicle in which the why is moving through. Have I lost you? I hope not because I am going to go through the major mind block that most women I come across will relay to me.

It’s themselves. They are the entity in their own way. When they look back at themselves they think that they need some more tender love and care yet when you ask them how they are working towards that goal they will usually reply with something like, “Oh I don’t have time for that,” or “You know how life is.”

I do know how life is, I know that these women feel too selfish and uneasy to give themselves a break, and yet as soon as someone needs or wants something they are the first to be at their aid. These women have a heart of gold, they find it easy to take care of others but when the arrow points to them they will do anything to not help themselves.

Here are the three reasons why women put themselves last:

  • Spending money on self-care: a massage, products that will make them feel good or even a program that will kick their motivation into gear
  • Spending time on themselves seems selfish especially when they have every other aspect of their lives they have to cater to. These women usually have families so their responsibility is to care for them.
  • They don’t believe in themselves enough to even imagine that change can happen for them because “that’s just how it is” mentality.

What if I told you that isn’t just how it is? That you do have the ability to make these changes and not only will they benefit you but they will also benefit your loved ones. When you take care of yourself, you will gain the energy back to not only live life to its fullest but be so much more present and helpful to the people around you.

It’s like the age-old saying, you can’t love someone else until you love yourself. How can you fill other cups if yours is running on empty?

So next time you say not to that program, or those products, or even a mini weekend retreat, know that you are worth the time, money, and effort to make those changes. When you looked in the mirror and you didn’t like who you saw, whether she was drained, tired, and full of negative talk, then a change can only make things better.

Focus on yourself, help yourself so you can be the best version of yourself!